Hope and Improving the Quality of Life
There are so many instances in life that may happen to you and take you down by a storm. We all got a share of mishaps that we would rather keep to ourselves that opening up to others. We oft have a time when we don’t know how the ones that we confide to will be any help to us. Above all, after confiding; as humans we believe that we have opened up our reputation for scrutiny and consequently ridicule and criticism; which may be even tougher to deal with. All you can do is hope for the best.
Nonetheless, I have been on that road; I been there, done that. The sarcastic thing about this all is that I’m a psychologist; who has been in operation for about 5 years offering my services to people with marital problems. However, I too have my own problems.
Last year was one of the worst days throughout my entire career. My woes started when I was sued in the court of law by a client a year before; and the ruling last year left a big damage to my reputation. However, I don’t wanna go to details of what the entire hullabaloo was; but in a way I was the one on the wrong. With that said, I must have been lucky to escape without having my operating license stripped off me, but the whole predicament had a negative impact on my life as well as my career. Though I never, got away with the hefty fine and damages penalized.
Difficult Times Can Easily make you Lose Focus
For the next 5 months, it became much difficult for me to get a client. It seemed as if they all had this notion that I was not good enough for them. Yeah, I had made a mistake; and each of us does. But having no one to trust you again makes life difficult. No matter how much I tried; even selling myself in churches during the congregational testimonies as I tried to prove that I was a changed man; nothing seemed to work.
As days went by, life became miserable for me and my family. At one point or another I felt that even my wife had lost hope in me. I was contributing almost nothing to cater for the domestic bills and everything that involved money seemed to get out of my hands. I couldn’t even afford a decent gift for my daughter when she turned 3.
The single fact that I was a psychologist was enough to help my situation. With each day, I was becoming pathetic. I started losing hope. Fear crept in. I could feel it in everything that I did especially that; which had an attachment of a monetary value.
By that time, the property managers of the building that my office was located were becoming impatient each day and wanted me out. I hadn’t been paying my rental charges.
Time is the mother of hope… you have to be patient
One Wednesday morning, still on the verge of despair, I received a phone call. When the phone rang, my first thought was some due payment being requested. I let the phone ring for a while as I formulated an excuse to make in case I was being called for defaulting something. When I gained some confidence, I picked it up.
Guess what, it was a client. The lady on the phone (I later came to learn that she also attended the same church with me) had marital problems with her husband. Apparently, she had put on more weight and the body fitness issues were creating a rift in her family. She needed advice. I won’t go to more details about this but she had this fear that her she wasn’t making her husband happy and their marriage was in the verge of dissolution.
She was so unhappy that she felt as if she had already signed her divorce papers by not checking on her diet as she had promised her husband who in turn found her unattractive and didn’t want to be involved with her in anything beyond the scope of their house. Her husband was a very wealthy and influential person who mostly attended various events for the organization but never wanted to do so with her wife because of that. The good thing is that he was willing to give her time.
The wait may be long; but it is worthy of your hope and efforts
However, I saw no negligence on the part of that lady so I knew that I could handle the situation comfortably. Therefore, I needed to meet both of them and for the next two months. With that said, I had scheduled meeting with them where we worked out a plan to solve the situation. Not only did all that keep me occupied but at the end it all gave me life.
The lady was very responsive to the diet and >exercises that I recommended to her and she was doing fine with no time. The husband was also all supportive all through and did everything to ensure that her wife adhered and succeeded. While handling the situation, I also realized that my situation was no different to my clients. Nevertheless, I just had to be patient and do all I can to change it.
I rebuilt my reputation; while working with them as well as I gained more confidence whenever I saw positive progress. By the time that I was done with the couple; actually they paid me handsomely; I was so happy. This was because I felt renewed energy in me. I’m also glad because even after this they referee some clients to me and soon I was back on my feet.
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